Blaming seems to be a very common reaction for some of us when we feel hurt, misunderstood, or (fill in the blank here). But is it helpful? Maybe temporarily… but blaming as the only way to cope with uncomfortable feelings can be really destructive in relationships and prevent growth in yourself. I am no stranger to blaming when I feel hurt. I seem to start there and then will try to use that as a signal to dig deeper for my part in the situation. I then try to see what in the situation is my responsibility to own and change. Here is a great video about blaming by Brené Brown: Check it out here.